Divorced Playbook

DDP 26, Sex and Dating Part 1: "Nicole, your face is telling me I’m an idiot."

January 19, 2021 Divorced Dad Playbook Episode 26
Divorced Playbook
DDP 26, Sex and Dating Part 1: "Nicole, your face is telling me I’m an idiot."
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DDP 26, Sex and Dating Part 1: "Nicole, your face is telling me I’m an idiot."
Jan 19, 2021 Episode 26
Divorced Dad Playbook

Nicole Ananda, from Ananda Integrative Healing is our guest on this two-part episode. Scott, Dan and Nicole? This gets fun.

We talk about finding love online, if you can create chemistry with someone and how it's difficult to put the version of yourself out there to get back the type of person you want.

If you are a strong, confident person, how do you put out there who you are and what you’re looking for and not end up with a project?


Some quotes from this episode, in the order in which they appear:

"Someone feels empowered to talk dirty today."

"You’re the worst matchmaker ever."

"I think the majority of them just want to, you know, fuck me. I have no judgement against that, but it makes it a lot harder for me to parse out the people who are serious about getting to know someone and possibly having a relationship."

"Can you have chemistry on a dating app, when someone says they are looking for chemistry?"


"Nicole, your face is telling me I’m an idiot."


"Not everybody is thinking about curating their dating profile when they’re taking pictures. They’re usually out doing something…"


"Do I get a finder’s fee if you actually date him?"


"When you’re in the top one percent, it sucks. I would rather be average, because I’d have such a giant pool of people — I know I sound like such a narcissist, but I don’t really mean it that way. It sucks, because it’s so much harder to find someone who can be my equal and meet me where I am."


"You two were talking about stuff that I didn’t have written down and I almost threw up under my desk."


"That physical part fades fast. It can last for a night, it can last a few weeks, it can maybe stretch itself out to a few months but if you’re not connected mentally, emotionally, spiritually, that physical stuff just really fades."


"I don’t care about that. That’s not me. If you want to come over and watch a movie, we’ll watch a movie. Don’t think that just because you’re coming here I’m either going to try to have sex with you or murder you. Those are the two things that everyone thinks is going to happen, and I’m not going to do either of those unless you want to."


"The No. 1 killer of women is men. The No. 1 killer of men is heart disease. So we do need to be careful, because we could walk into a situation that’s unsafe." 


"I don’t know a single woman — I don’t know a SINGLE woman — who has not be sexually assaulted in some way. Or harassed. Or coerced. Not a single woman. For me, I can’t even count on two hands the number of times it’s happen, or even remember them all, it’s been so many. This is what life is like for us in a patriarchy."


Show Notes

Nicole Ananda, from Ananda Integrative Healing is our guest on this two-part episode. Scott, Dan and Nicole? This gets fun.

We talk about finding love online, if you can create chemistry with someone and how it's difficult to put the version of yourself out there to get back the type of person you want.

If you are a strong, confident person, how do you put out there who you are and what you’re looking for and not end up with a project?


Some quotes from this episode, in the order in which they appear:

"Someone feels empowered to talk dirty today."

"You’re the worst matchmaker ever."

"I think the majority of them just want to, you know, fuck me. I have no judgement against that, but it makes it a lot harder for me to parse out the people who are serious about getting to know someone and possibly having a relationship."

"Can you have chemistry on a dating app, when someone says they are looking for chemistry?"


"Nicole, your face is telling me I’m an idiot."


"Not everybody is thinking about curating their dating profile when they’re taking pictures. They’re usually out doing something…"


"Do I get a finder’s fee if you actually date him?"


"When you’re in the top one percent, it sucks. I would rather be average, because I’d have such a giant pool of people — I know I sound like such a narcissist, but I don’t really mean it that way. It sucks, because it’s so much harder to find someone who can be my equal and meet me where I am."


"You two were talking about stuff that I didn’t have written down and I almost threw up under my desk."


"That physical part fades fast. It can last for a night, it can last a few weeks, it can maybe stretch itself out to a few months but if you’re not connected mentally, emotionally, spiritually, that physical stuff just really fades."


"I don’t care about that. That’s not me. If you want to come over and watch a movie, we’ll watch a movie. Don’t think that just because you’re coming here I’m either going to try to have sex with you or murder you. Those are the two things that everyone thinks is going to happen, and I’m not going to do either of those unless you want to."


"The No. 1 killer of women is men. The No. 1 killer of men is heart disease. So we do need to be careful, because we could walk into a situation that’s unsafe." 


"I don’t know a single woman — I don’t know a SINGLE woman — who has not be sexually assaulted in some way. Or harassed. Or coerced. Not a single woman. For me, I can’t even count on two hands the number of times it’s happen, or even remember them all, it’s been so many. This is what life is like for us in a patriarchy."