Divorced Playbook

Ep. 38: Normal Is A Four-Letter Word v You Can't Hide Crazy

March 17, 2021 Divorced Playbook Episode 38
Divorced Playbook
Ep. 38: Normal Is A Four-Letter Word v You Can't Hide Crazy
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Divorced Playbook
Ep. 38: Normal Is A Four-Letter Word v You Can't Hide Crazy
Mar 17, 2021 Episode 38
Divorced Playbook

This is a show about self-awareness. Are you really as self-aware as you think? 

Our goal is to help a lot of you out there who are going through similar things to what we are. We’re just talking about it.

"A lot people listening have been through a traumatic life event and I think we’re just making sure we are relatable and people understand that what you’re going through, you’re not alone."

This episode is very reflective, and should leave you assessing your own behaviors. Hopefully it doesn't sound like we're up our own asses. 

Some very pertinent quotes, in order of pertinence:

"To be self-aware, to be self-aware about what you want, to be self-aware about the people you are going out with, you need to understand who you’re dealing with. We all need to be mindful of how we’re being self-aware, if we’re being self-aware, and just spend a little time thinking that way. Spend a little time thinking not so much about yourself, but how you’re interacting with other and how what you’re doing or saying affects others, whether it be people you’re dating, friends, family or your kids."
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"Normal. Whatever that means. You, as the audience, can decide what normal is for you. But if you try and find somebody that you feel is “normal” to you, and you start to date them, then you have an opportunity to explore them. You have an opportunity to get to know them, to understand them and that stuff just takes time."

"Normal is a four-letter word. To me. If I see normal on a dating site, if someone is looking for normal, I automatically swipe left on them. Because…yes a lot of people crave normality. A lot of people crave safety and security; that’s what they’re looking for in a match. That’s not what I’m looking for. It never will be what I’m looking for." 
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"I’m looking at my life as a dry erase board. Every day hilariousness happens and then I erase the board and then the next day hilariousness happens. Or whatever. What I’m not thinking about is that somebody who is listening to this show up until this point, or somebody who jumps in now and says, ‘let me start at the beginning and go back,’ I’m a sociopath. I’m insane." 

"In the context of everything it felt like, ‘okay this is fun, we’re going to talk about this.’ But if I were to go back even to listen to the first 30-something shows, I’d be like ‘who the fuck is that guy?’ But that guy’s this guy!"
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"It never crossed my mind once that somebody could show up here to me, with my kids standing next to me, and flip out, or whatever could happen. I never once thought for my own personal safety or the safety of my kids. I just thought, this is going to be fun. That’s a concern to me, man. How unaware am I that I didn’t even think about the safety of my family because I was like, ‘fuck it, it’s fun!’"
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"You can’t ultimately hide crazy. You can’t. You can hide it for a date. You might be able to hide it for two. If you are crazy, if you have a crazy part to you, you can’t hide that."
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"You might have some bad days. You might have some crazier days, you might think things aren’t going well. You might be lonely. These are all the emotions that we explore throughout the show and I think we have to share them. You know what? Maybe they come across in ways that some people don’t like them and for that I’m sorry, but the reality is, we’re not going to change the way that we do things. We’re not going to change who we are."
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"I say this to my oldest (kid) all the time: You might be the smartest person in every room. But you can’t tell the rest of the room that you’re the smartest. You have to show them."

Show Notes

This is a show about self-awareness. Are you really as self-aware as you think? 

Our goal is to help a lot of you out there who are going through similar things to what we are. We’re just talking about it.

"A lot people listening have been through a traumatic life event and I think we’re just making sure we are relatable and people understand that what you’re going through, you’re not alone."

This episode is very reflective, and should leave you assessing your own behaviors. Hopefully it doesn't sound like we're up our own asses. 

Some very pertinent quotes, in order of pertinence:

"To be self-aware, to be self-aware about what you want, to be self-aware about the people you are going out with, you need to understand who you’re dealing with. We all need to be mindful of how we’re being self-aware, if we’re being self-aware, and just spend a little time thinking that way. Spend a little time thinking not so much about yourself, but how you’re interacting with other and how what you’re doing or saying affects others, whether it be people you’re dating, friends, family or your kids."
------
"Normal. Whatever that means. You, as the audience, can decide what normal is for you. But if you try and find somebody that you feel is “normal” to you, and you start to date them, then you have an opportunity to explore them. You have an opportunity to get to know them, to understand them and that stuff just takes time."

"Normal is a four-letter word. To me. If I see normal on a dating site, if someone is looking for normal, I automatically swipe left on them. Because…yes a lot of people crave normality. A lot of people crave safety and security; that’s what they’re looking for in a match. That’s not what I’m looking for. It never will be what I’m looking for." 
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"I’m looking at my life as a dry erase board. Every day hilariousness happens and then I erase the board and then the next day hilariousness happens. Or whatever. What I’m not thinking about is that somebody who is listening to this show up until this point, or somebody who jumps in now and says, ‘let me start at the beginning and go back,’ I’m a sociopath. I’m insane." 

"In the context of everything it felt like, ‘okay this is fun, we’re going to talk about this.’ But if I were to go back even to listen to the first 30-something shows, I’d be like ‘who the fuck is that guy?’ But that guy’s this guy!"
------
"It never crossed my mind once that somebody could show up here to me, with my kids standing next to me, and flip out, or whatever could happen. I never once thought for my own personal safety or the safety of my kids. I just thought, this is going to be fun. That’s a concern to me, man. How unaware am I that I didn’t even think about the safety of my family because I was like, ‘fuck it, it’s fun!’"
------
"You can’t ultimately hide crazy. You can’t. You can hide it for a date. You might be able to hide it for two. If you are crazy, if you have a crazy part to you, you can’t hide that."
------
"You might have some bad days. You might have some crazier days, you might think things aren’t going well. You might be lonely. These are all the emotions that we explore throughout the show and I think we have to share them. You know what? Maybe they come across in ways that some people don’t like them and for that I’m sorry, but the reality is, we’re not going to change the way that we do things. We’re not going to change who we are."
------ 
"I say this to my oldest (kid) all the time: You might be the smartest person in every room. But you can’t tell the rest of the room that you’re the smartest. You have to show them."