Divorced Playbook

Ep 40: Passing On, Passing Over

March 29, 2021 Divorced Playbook Episode 40
Divorced Playbook
Ep 40: Passing On, Passing Over
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Divorced Playbook
Ep 40: Passing On, Passing Over
Mar 29, 2021 Episode 40
Divorced Playbook

Do you feel like you're sitting in the waiting room...of life?

You are not alone. With more people getting vaccinated and the weather allowing for more outside activities, it's a good time for people to take stock of where they are in life.

But what if you feel like you're in the same place as when the pandemic started? What if you feel like you're in stasis? What do you do?

On today's show:
• Scott follows up on the story about his grandfather coming back as a bird to watch over him, the belief in spirits, reincarnation and religion.

• More detail on our 21 Tips for Spring Cleaning Your Life.

• Dan remarks at the number of people he's matched with or gone out with who are on Instagram now, celebrating #Love with some other guy.

Some quotes:
26:50 - "I am in stasis. This whole year feels like, for everyone, your life has been put on hold. But for me, specifically, it’s been the culmination of three years where my life has sort of been on hold and I’m just starting to try to find my footing again to get myself back into this existence and it’s not easy."

35:50 - "I feel like I’m being hung by, like, a hook and just floating, and I’m waiting for someone to come around with a giant stick and a blindfold and just whack the shit out of me until stuff falls out. Because that’s the feeling right now. That I’m just waiting for my guts to fall out on the floor. And yes, I just turned myself into a piñata. I don’t know how, but I felt it was apt."

37:50 - "Social media...it’s all bullshit. It's controlled. People put out there what they want you to see."

38:50 - "I’m at the point where I’ve seen people that I’ve gone out with in the past do this three or four times with dudes. So now I realize what people are doing. I want someone that is there for me. I think the love that I want, and that you are now just beginning to talk about, is the kind of love that…I don’t care if anyone knows. I’m not trying to find love to broadcast it to the world, I’m trying to find love so I have peace with me."

39:25 - "We need to help the people that want to be helped. We need to love the people that want to be loved. We need to keep that feeling and that love to ourselves."

41:55 - "You have a tendency, Dan, to focus a little bit more on the negative than on the positive and I just think that’s something you are working on. Correct? Yes?"

"Anyone who has ever met me or listened to this show once is like falling on the ground laughing. You needed to say that? Is that something you felt you needed to explain to the audience or to me?"

45:00 "That's where I'm focused. If you give up on being the best, what's the point?"

45:30 - "I’m always focused on being my best. 'The' best? I don’t know what that means."

Show Notes

Do you feel like you're sitting in the waiting room...of life?

You are not alone. With more people getting vaccinated and the weather allowing for more outside activities, it's a good time for people to take stock of where they are in life.

But what if you feel like you're in the same place as when the pandemic started? What if you feel like you're in stasis? What do you do?

On today's show:
• Scott follows up on the story about his grandfather coming back as a bird to watch over him, the belief in spirits, reincarnation and religion.

• More detail on our 21 Tips for Spring Cleaning Your Life.

• Dan remarks at the number of people he's matched with or gone out with who are on Instagram now, celebrating #Love with some other guy.

Some quotes:
26:50 - "I am in stasis. This whole year feels like, for everyone, your life has been put on hold. But for me, specifically, it’s been the culmination of three years where my life has sort of been on hold and I’m just starting to try to find my footing again to get myself back into this existence and it’s not easy."

35:50 - "I feel like I’m being hung by, like, a hook and just floating, and I’m waiting for someone to come around with a giant stick and a blindfold and just whack the shit out of me until stuff falls out. Because that’s the feeling right now. That I’m just waiting for my guts to fall out on the floor. And yes, I just turned myself into a piñata. I don’t know how, but I felt it was apt."

37:50 - "Social media...it’s all bullshit. It's controlled. People put out there what they want you to see."

38:50 - "I’m at the point where I’ve seen people that I’ve gone out with in the past do this three or four times with dudes. So now I realize what people are doing. I want someone that is there for me. I think the love that I want, and that you are now just beginning to talk about, is the kind of love that…I don’t care if anyone knows. I’m not trying to find love to broadcast it to the world, I’m trying to find love so I have peace with me."

39:25 - "We need to help the people that want to be helped. We need to love the people that want to be loved. We need to keep that feeling and that love to ourselves."

41:55 - "You have a tendency, Dan, to focus a little bit more on the negative than on the positive and I just think that’s something you are working on. Correct? Yes?"

"Anyone who has ever met me or listened to this show once is like falling on the ground laughing. You needed to say that? Is that something you felt you needed to explain to the audience or to me?"

45:00 "That's where I'm focused. If you give up on being the best, what's the point?"

45:30 - "I’m always focused on being my best. 'The' best? I don’t know what that means."