Divorced Playbook

Ep 49: F.O.D.A. - Fear Of Dating Again

June 07, 2021 Divorced Playbook Episode 49
Divorced Playbook
Ep 49: F.O.D.A. - Fear Of Dating Again
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Divorced Playbook
Ep 49: F.O.D.A. - Fear Of Dating Again
Jun 07, 2021 Episode 49
Divorced Playbook

A listener shared with us one of their biggest fears. Dating. And, specifically, the Fear of Dating Again, after an extended amount of time being alone, sequestered, quarantined or otherwise out of the dating scene.

F.O.D.A., in this case meaning Fear Of Dating Again, is a real thing, and the Levy Bros. do their best to tackle this difficult subject. 

How get over F.O.D.A.? 

• Put the weight of carrying the conversation on the other person. Ask questions about them if you think you don’t have anything to talk about. You’d be surprised at how engaged you will become once you relax and get involved in the conversation more naturally.

• Be open about your fear and anxiety. No better way to break the ice than to be honest about your nerves, because the other person is probably just as nervous.

• Focus on the people who ARE interested in you, not those who validate your fears of rejection.

Also, Scott talks about how much he likes working moms, Dan talks about how he's become a safe first date back for women with F.O.D.A. and this hilarious exchange takes place. 

"I would just like to say that I think moms are sexy."

"Alright."

"I do."

"You get enough action. You don’t need to be using the show to be getting matches." 

"I’m not interested in trying to get matches. I’m just saying that I know what it’s like to be a mom and do everything that you do. That, in and of itself--" 

"Wait, wait, wait. You can’t say that."

"Why?"

"You just mansplained motherhood!"

Show Notes

A listener shared with us one of their biggest fears. Dating. And, specifically, the Fear of Dating Again, after an extended amount of time being alone, sequestered, quarantined or otherwise out of the dating scene.

F.O.D.A., in this case meaning Fear Of Dating Again, is a real thing, and the Levy Bros. do their best to tackle this difficult subject. 

How get over F.O.D.A.? 

• Put the weight of carrying the conversation on the other person. Ask questions about them if you think you don’t have anything to talk about. You’d be surprised at how engaged you will become once you relax and get involved in the conversation more naturally.

• Be open about your fear and anxiety. No better way to break the ice than to be honest about your nerves, because the other person is probably just as nervous.

• Focus on the people who ARE interested in you, not those who validate your fears of rejection.

Also, Scott talks about how much he likes working moms, Dan talks about how he's become a safe first date back for women with F.O.D.A. and this hilarious exchange takes place. 

"I would just like to say that I think moms are sexy."

"Alright."

"I do."

"You get enough action. You don’t need to be using the show to be getting matches." 

"I’m not interested in trying to get matches. I’m just saying that I know what it’s like to be a mom and do everything that you do. That, in and of itself--" 

"Wait, wait, wait. You can’t say that."

"Why?"

"You just mansplained motherhood!"